We all want to feel great in life, but only a small fraction of us can honestly say that we spend our lives in a state of happiness. The good news is that it is something that you have a surprising degree of control over. Most people simply lack the knowledge to be happy, and so wind up going around in circles in their lives.
So what are the secrets to feeling better about yourself every day? Let’s take a look.
Being grateful isn’t a panacea. It won’t cure all your woes. However, it can make a big difference in how you feel. After all, when you feel grateful for what you have, it’s hard to feel sad, lonely or depressed.
You don’t have to be grateful for much, either. All you need is one thing in your life to be happy about, and you will feel more complete. Make practising happiness a daily ritual – something that you do in the mornings or evenings to remind yourself about just how lucky you are.
The need to be perfect is another major source of unhappiness. Many women feel like they have to live “the good life” and constantly pressure themselves into achieving it. They have to have a great career, wonderful friends, and a loving relationship with their partner. Kids are essential, too.
However, the trick to feeling happier about your life is to stop comparing yourself to society’s standards and simply focus on how you feel right now. You don’t have to attain success to be happy. It’s available any time.
When you’re a busy woman, rushing around all the time, pampering yourself often falls down your list of priorities. However, it’s something that you should do every day, if you can.
From your own experience, you know that pampering yourself is a great way to feel better. Just going for a quick shower, for instance, leaves you feeling refreshed, as though you’ve lifted a heavy burden from your body.
You can also invest in new mascara, lipstick, foundation and eye-liner, as well as soaps, conditioners and body lotions. These will help you look and feel your best.
Human beings want lives that are full of meaning. But if your job doesn’t feel like it is important, you will struggle to understand why you are here.
The trick is to find something that gives you a reason to get up in the morning. Ideally, you want to pursue what you were born to do. Spend some time searching for your unique talent and find out what it is. Then look for ways to sell it to other people. It is better to spend your days doing something you love than doing a job that you hate but pays well.
Just a little physical activity can make a big difference in how you feel. Exercise stimulates chemical messengers in the brain involved in self-perception and wellbeing. After going for a jog or hitting the gym, you’ll feel like you have more focus, energy, and motivation. Try it and see if it works for you.
Performing acts of kindness, no matter how big or small, correlate strongly with your personal sense of wellbeing. If you can make someone else’s day, you’ll often find that it makes your own, too.
The reason for this is simple: just like exercise, acts of random kindness cause your brain to release feel-good hormones, such as oxytocin. These then make their way throughout your body, fundamentally changing how you feel.
Cognitively, there are benefits, too. If you start seeing yourself as a generous, giving person, it will affect your personal view of your character.
Life is challenging enough. But when you’re surrounded by people with their own issues, it can make it even harder. Even if you have the potential to thrive, other people bring you down.
Changing who you associate with is never easy, but it is often necessary. When you have space, you soon discover that you are a much happier person than you thought. Just being by yourself can, in some cases, actually be addictive.
It’s even better if you have loving people around you. When you have their respect and support, you feel more secure in your life and you are able to tackle some of life’s biggest challenges head-on.